Arrested Development

Arrested Development

“When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.” -1 Corinthians 13:11

Dr. Paul Hegstrom is the author of a book called Broken Children, Grown Up Pain. A psychologist himself, Dr. Hegstrom describes a phenomenon known as “arrested development”, in which people are emotionally stunted due to past childhood traumas that occur before the ages of 9 and 12 years old.

I went through a biblically-based training he developed called Lifeskills, and the knowledge and revelation I received was truly life-changing. Traumatic experiences are classified as emotional, physical, and sexual abuse, neglect, and excessive rejection. When these experiences happen when we’re young, we take them in as truth. “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6) The enemy’s lies about us and our identity can get planted very early, limiting us from being able to receive God’s love for us and understand our true identity and calling in Him, and keeping us from having fulfilling relationships with others.

Dr. Drew Pinsky, famed celebrity psychiatrist and host of the show Loveline also describes this phenomenon happening in our culture today, as it relates to the increasing trend of narcissism: “As I continue to talk with these people (celebrities), they usually reveal childhood experiences that were clearly traumatic – the kinds of damaging episodes that are at the root of narcissistic disorders.” pg. 106, The Mirror Effect

But, there is good news! God can heal us of any kind of wound we may have experienced during our growing up years. “Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear; then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard.” (Isaiah 58:8)

Can you see any areas where you might be arrested in your emotions? Can you see where others might have had some wounds in their past? Pray and ask God to help to heal you in these areas, and that you also might be a healing force in the life of someone else. Our heavenly Father desires that we be healed of any lie from the enemy, so that we can grow strong in our faith and know His love, be free from our wounds, and come to full maturity in Him. His love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:8)